Wedding Etiquette Articles
Assigning Seats During Weddings
Weddings are such tedious events that organizers assume too much
responsibilities, from creating the guest list, to putting out and distributing
invitations, down to making sure everyone is seated where he or she should be
during the ceremonies and in the reception.
Organizers should pay particular attention to this because putting a person to
the wrong company during weddings can start up a great and scandalous commotion.
Wedding etiquette guides advise organizers to know everyone first, or at least
do more research about personalities and backgrounds before assigning seats.
Arch enemies would not want to seat beside each other even for a few minutes,
right? So be sensitive and particular to these and more issues.
Seating arrangement in the church
Wedding etiquettes always assume that weddings, as traditions have it, are
taking place inside churches. Or that ceremonies are church rites, at least.
Following proper wedding etiquettes, the family of the bride should be seated on
the left side and the groom’s family on the right side of the venue. Yes, the
two families are segregated.
The couple’s parents should sit in the first pew, before the other important and
significant guests. Seating arrangements in churches and other venues should be
marked by organizers so people will know where they should be seated.
There are special cases when seating arrangements in weddings are altered.
However, the changes should still follow strict wedding etiquettes.
For one, if the parents are divorced, how will the organizer arrange seats for
them? Answer, if the parents of either the bride or the groom, or both, are
divorced, both mom and dad can be seated along the front row with their current
or new spouses. Flings and short-time girlfriends or boyfriends of parents are
excluded and should not be seated there.
If the parents’ separation or divorce was a bitter one, and they still are not
civil with each other, then the mom and dad should be seated in separate pews
where they could hardly see each other.
It is the challenge for the wedding organizer to be creative, wise and practical
in assigning seat arrangements during weddings.
The mom should be guided to her seat in the first pew by an assigned usher. If
she remarried, her husband should walk just behind the mom and the usher. As a
rule in wedding etiquettes, at least during the ceremonies, he should let his
The bride’s or groom’s father should still escort or walk the bride or groom to
the aisle along with the mom. No place for step moms and step dads for this
In most weddings, organizers arrange a seat plan is such a way that step moms
and step dads are seated along with the grandparents or along with other
significant or very special guests.
Seating arrangements during weddings should also vary and change, depending on
the clergy and religion. Wedding etiquettes allow guests to inquire or ask about
the seating arrangements to the clergy.
There are wedding etiquettes governing seating arrangements in the church during
the wedding ceremony. Of course, certain seating arrangements should also be
ethically followed during the reception.
Formal receptions will have the bride’s entourage and family assigned to
particular spots or seats in the reception.
The following will set a guidance when arranging or assigning seats or chairs in
formal wedding receptions.
The top table must be composed or be seated with the wedding party or entourage
only. However, several very important guests can be included in the top table if
the bride and the groom or their family wishes.
In those cases, the person should be seated on either side of the wedding party.
The bride and the groom’s families are still separated to distinguish which clan
is that of the bride’s and which one is the groom’s.
Here’s the proper arrangement on top tables on wedding receptions, in accordance
to appropriate and proper wedding etiquettes:
Arranged from left to right, facing the guests: maid of honor, groom’s mom,
bride’s dad, the bride, the groom, the bride’s mom, the groom’s dad, then the
Wedding etiquettes advise that the table should be occupied only by 12 people,
Other people should be then seated to other tables. Strictly limit the occupants
of the top table, if possible.
Also, remember that in assigning seating arrangements for receptions, the bride
should always stand or be seated to the left side of the groom. Again, this is
for symbolic purposes. Just adhere and follow traditions, won’t you?
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